One of the most difficult things I have ever done was to force myself to sit down and answer my annulment questionnaire.
I did it about two and a half years after my civil divorce, and it was beyond grueling. Questions about me. Questions about him. Questions about our families, our careers, our courtship, our wedding day. And the question, “What did it mean to you to be in love?”
Dredging up those ugly, painful memories I had tried so hard to put behind me was agonizing, and reliving my divorce was a very bitter pill to swallow.
Yet, there was a brilliance in it all. Those 107 essay questions shed light on more than just how horrible it all was. The intensely personal inquiries opened my eyes to the truth of what had happened and revealed an entirely new perspective on my story. It helped me recognize the many poor choices I made going into the relationship, and despite the fact I married for life and tried to be a good wife, I came face to face with a very sad truth: choosing the right man to marry took a back seat to attaining the coveted title of “Mrs.”
When it was all over and the final question had been answered, I couldn’t help but think, “Why didn’t anyone ask me these questions before? I never would have married him in the first place!”
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